Finally! I Get to Decorate A Nursery!

I don't really post about Nora on here. But, I feel this is a special milestone for me (us). So, I wanted to share it.

Finally! I got to decorate and "nest" for Nora. We moved shortly before Ella was born and I had planned on keeping her in my room for the first year. Then, when I was pregnant with Nora, I couldn't even fathom bringing a baby home, therefore did not plan anything during my pregnancy. So, now, at one year's old (almost 14 months, actually), Nora gets her nursery. I just LOVE it! It's the perfect combination of modern and shabby chic (I don't even know if that's a style, but I'm finding out that I love both). The color is bold, but I'm so glad I decided to take the risk. All of the artwork was done by my mother in law. The cat painting was given to us as one of our wedding presents. At the time, Patches was our first and only baby, we just loved it. We received the painting of Cassidy for our 6th wedding anniversary. MIL had painted it to go in Ella's nursery (the only plan I had for Ella's future nursery was that I wanted it to be silver sage and chocolate brown). She did the cupcake painting when I found out Ella was a girl. And, finally she did a sketch of Nora as a first birthday present. The dresser is special because it was mine as a kid. I don't have a ton of things from my childhood and since my parents are gone now too, I feel really sentimental about it. Since I was a teenager, I knew it would go in my child's room someday. Nothing is really finished in the house, except Nora's room. I love sitting in there. I think Nora does, too.

I love that some of Ella's things are mixed in with Nora's. Ella, you are always with us. xo

There is a pic of Nora thrown in there. I think I downloaded it by accident. But, I'm leaving it. She is cruising up and down the house now and can turn around when she hits a dead end. She also started standing (I call it surfing) on her own and takes about 3-5 steps on her own now. How big she is!

Freewriting

I need to write here more often. I love coming here and being in Ella's Space. I think even if I don't have anything to write about, I should just write. You know like you used to do in the 5th grade. I think it was called Freewriting.

I'm still battling extreme exhaustion due to lack of sleep. My sweet Rainbow just loves and needs me so much that she still cries all night long (well, I'm exaggerating... More like 2-3 times a night, but just enough to ensure I'm up every few hours). Plus, we are preparing for another move. We finally purchased our first house and I am thrilled to be giving Nora her own room and yard to play in. Hubby and I have been married for 8 years next month and we have been dreaming of owning a home for forever.

I keep up with most of the people I met thru this blog via facebook. It is incredible how things have changed since I started this blog over two years ago. Most of us who lost about the same time, have rainbows who are similar in age. We are very lucky. Next month I get to meet one of my very best blog buddies. I am so excited because even though we've never met, Christy and I talk on the phone, skype, and email each other several times a day.


This is a pic from Nora's 1st Birthday. I can't believe a whole year has passed since she was born. Times really does fly. She got her first two teeth the week of her birthday. She is pointing, snapping, clapping, and talking- she says 5 words- dada, hi, uh-oh, car, and sometimes Bree. I'm a proud mama.

I think of Ella several times a day. I weave her into my day the best that I can. I wish she were here tormenting Nora as a "terrible" two year old. Nora loves butterflies... It makes me so happy that she smiles and points to the ones hanging throughout the house. We write Ella's name together on the shower door each night when we take a bath. Ella, we miss you.

Yesterday, I realized that Sunday is Father's Day. I've been so busy, I haven't even thought about it. I'm actually going to be in San Diego this weekend. We spread some of my dad's ashes there, so I'm looking forward to being in a place that he loved so much. I think I'm going to make an angel food cake in his honor this weekend, too.

Sending love to you all. xo

My First Mother's Day

Tomorrow, a passerby will look at me and assume that this is my first Mother's Day. Tomorrow is not my first Mother's Day. My first Mother's Day was three years ago, just two short months after I gave birth to Ella. I am surprised that three years later I still feel wounded. I feel guilty that I have this beautiful (almost) one year old baby girl to love on and I am not all that excited about the day. I don't know how I am going to be around the people tomorrow... The same people that failed to acknowledge me as a mother three years ago.

I don't come here nearly enough. I like logging on because I feel like this is Ella's space and this is where I can connect with her. I've noticed that there are quite a number of new people following- which I don't know how that happened since my posts are few and far between and there's really nothing special going on. But, if you'd like, please introduce yourself here. Wishing you all a peaceful and gentle Mother's Day.

2 Years

We celebrated Ella's 2nd Birthday on Tuesday. We had a nice family day. I made cupcakes in the morning and then we spent the day driving up the coast. We stopped and had lunch at one of our favorite spots and then took Nora on a little shopping spree. I felt so much gratitude that day. I'm very thankful to be only two years out from my loss and have such a beautiful, living baby to love on. I dressed Nora in a beautiful tutu because I felt like it was a celebratory outfit. On the way home, we stopped at the beach and wrote Ella's name in the sand. Ella sent us two beautiful Monarch butterflies while we were there. In the evening, we light candles and sang Happy Birthday. We also have a tradition that we started last year of writing in a birthday card. This year, I purchased a silhouette pic of my favorite ultrasound image as her birthday gift.

As usual, the days leading up to her birthday were pretty emotional and seemed worse than the day itself. Even though I celebrate Ella's life in small ways every day, it is nice to know that March 15th that will always be her special day.

Thank you to all my wonderful friends who sent their love this week. xo

Birthday Blues

Today is my 31st Birthday. I should be happy. But, I feel sad. Three years ago on my Birthday, my dad was gravely ill. He passed away 3 weeks later. Two years ago, I was blissfully pregnant with Ella. I had just found out that she was a she and DH had bought me a beautiful diaper bag as a gift. Three weeks later, she passed away too. I feel like I'm starting to relive those dates all over again. Will my heart ever stop aching?

Ella's Boat

When we were out walking this weekend, DH spotted this tiny boat. We just so happened to have our camera with us too. Made our hearts smile.

** I realized the symbolism behind this little boat last night. Not too long before I saw this boat, I had posted that I felt like I was sinking... Ella sent me a boat. :) Love you, Ella girl.

This Week

This week was definitely better than the last. I think the fact that the weather has been spectacular helped. I've been making an effort to get out and walk each day, toting Nora and our dog to different parks around then neighborhood. We've also walked to Star.bucks and a nearby baby store twice, and took a drive to one of my new favorite cupcake shops. At the cupcake shop, I met a mom who has a baby 2 weeks younger than Nora. She and I set up a play date and lunch for next week. Even with the little cold Nora is fighting, she's been very happy this week. I think she likes the sunshine too. I also finished a hat for a friend I've been working on for like 6 months and started a new one for Nora. And, I've started planning our Little Lady's 1st Birthday Party. That's right, Nora peanut turns 8 months old this weekend. I'm planning on making some of the decorations myself, so I thought I'd better get started. It's going to take me a whole lot of 20 minute nap times to get them done. Thank you everyone for all your love and support after my last post. This motherhood thing combined with the grief I'm still experiencing is tough and I'm so glad I still have this safe place to vent.